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How To Write A Condolence Letter

When it comes to sympathy gifts for child who lost parents, or something equally sensitive, sending a sympathetic letter, note, or card adds a personal touch when we are lost for words.

The most important consideration while writing a condolence message is, to be honest, sympathetic, and sincere. Be conscious that everyone’s mourning journey is different, and avoid statements such as “for the better” or “everything occurs for a purpose.”

We recommend using the following components when creating a good condolence letter:

1. Address the deceased by name

In your letter, be forthright and address the departed by name. Reading and seeing the deceased’s title can bring consolation and remind the bereaved of their existence.

2. Convey your condolences

“I’m sorry for your loss” is a popular remark that expresses condolences.

3. Mention something unique

Your sympathy letter will appear much more genuine and emotional if you include personal details about the deceased.

4. Inform the grieving of their unique capabilities

A bereaved individual may feel alienated, powerless, or alone. Try reminding them of their coping abilities, like their belief, optimism, or perseverance.

5. Share a memory

Within your letter, don’t be afraid to share a cherished memory of the dead. These recollections can provide consolation, joy, and a sense of belonging to the grieving.

6. Offer to assist

“Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you” is too ambiguous. Instead, suggest a particular and practical favor you will do for them.

7. Finish with a sympathetic expression

Rather than using typical letter closings like “sincerely,” “loving,” or “thinking of you,” consider something a little more active like “You are all in my prayers and thoughts,” “I am available to encourage you,” or “I am with you in my prayer and presence.” These remarks emphasize your continued support and compassion as the grieving cope with their loss.

Condolence Letter Examples

Example 1

Dear Name,

I am really saddened to learn about the “name of deceased” death. She worked hard to overcome her diagnosis. Despite how sick she was, I never saw her moan or appear defeated. That was entirely in character for her. She was always determined to face whatever came her way. I’ve never met somebody with such tenacity.

I’ll miss many aspects she had, from her incredible holiday dinners to the terrible pranks. I’m sure that doesn’t compare to how badly you miss her.

I’ll be visiting with Mom in three days, and I can’t wait to see you and offer you a huge hug. I really wanted to drop you a quick message to let you know I’m thinking about you.


Your Name.

Example 2

Greetings, Name

Despite the fact that we had never met, your (say relationship) and I had met (mention location) and were frequent correspondents. I was shocked to hear of his death.

(Name of the departed) was a wonderful friend. He had a lot of energy and a kind heart. He was a person on whom I could always rely.

My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your relatives. Please don’t hesitate to contact me if there is anything I may be able to assist you with.

I wish you God’s comfort.

(Your Name and signature)

Example 3

Dear Name,

I’m sad to learn of your mother’s death. She was a one-of-a-kind lady. I have so many happy memories of nights spent at your place as a child. My mother wasn’t always around while growing up, and yours truly took me under her wing.

She was always trying to involve me in big events like special occasion dress shopping or birthday parties. I recall the cake she made for my 20th birthday. Her affection meant more to me than I can ever put into words.

It is extremely important to me that our small girls are now buddies as well. I know you want Sarah to be near you right now.

But when you feel the need for some alone time, inform me. I’ll come to get her, and she will stay the night at my place with Edith. I’ll contact you again next Saturday to see if you’re interested in a park playtime.

I love you.


Example 4

Greetings, Name

Despite the fact that we have just talked, I wanted to reach out to express my condolences for your bereavement. [Name] had been such a special individual that no words can truly describe.

[Name] had been such a special individual that no words can truly describe. [He or she] delighted everybody [he or she] encountered and will be missed greatly. People have told me how much [Name’s] friendship meant to them. If you want to chat, I’m always available. I’ll contact you shortly to see if I may be of assistance in any way.


Your Name.


A condolence letter must honor the deceased’s existence and comfort the grieving when they are most in need; they also might retain the letters and reread them in the future.

If you’re stuck, consider speaking from the heart, and don’t be too concerned with precise language. What counts most is your genuine support.